The Stretching of the Ring

Anal sex has a fascination that goes back for centuries, if not
until the beginnings of time. The sheer volume of material written on
the subject, the number of letters I get about it, and the total
fascination the subject causes, has prompted me to try to write the
definitive chapter about the pleasures, pitfalls, myths and hypocrisy
surrounding the subject.

The first side of the subject that I would like to discuss, is the
male psychology of anal sex. The subject is closely linked with oral
sex to completion. Both are regarded by most women as a no no, and the
coercion of a female to perform either act is considered by men as the
ultimate act of subjugation. Most Sub Dom fantasy material, has its
theme concentrated around the subjection of women to anal sex. The
story of ³O² is a classic example. Within hours of arriving at the
Chateau, ³O² is subjected to, what I consider rape, both anally, and
orally, and then after a discussion between the men about her over
tight and therefore not easily accessible anus, it is decided that,
between the beatings and whippings, she is to be ³opened² by wearing
phalluses, of daily increasing size, inserted in her anus, and held
there by a series of chains, until the sphincter is permanently
stretched, rendering it sufficiently large for her masters to bugger
her easily, while of course her anus still remains tighter than her
vagina. After all in her masters eyes, buggery is still an act of
subjugation.

The less classic, but more severe books from the likes of Victor
Bruno, have scenes of young women being used as candelabra to decorate
palaces, with huge candles protruding from their distended anal
sphincters, and hot wax running down the stems to sear their buttocks.
Young women are driven as ponies, with decorated horse hair tails
attached to plugs inserted in their anuses. All are subjected to
regular bouts of buggery by their masters.

Most Hard core videos offer us scenes of women being buggered, and
having men ejaculate over their faces and into their mouths.

In my opinion the whole scenario is all based on the basic myth
that if women don¹t like something, then forcing them to do that
thing, will reinforce the male sexual power over that female
As we all know, whether we be male or female, only a very few women
are actually turned on by either of these acts, most who will allow
their men the sexual delicacy of oral sex to completion, do so out of
loyalty, and perhaps get a kick out of pleasing their man, rather than
from the act itself, many simply hate it, but put up with it, as a
penalty for life and love.

Anal sex is not generally even considered. Most women will try it
once, find out that it hurts unbearably, and never let anything enter
their anus ever again.

There are a few, who will continue to accept the pain, for their
man¹s sake, and once every blue moon grit their teeth, and allow anal
penetration, normally after vast amounts of coercion and even moral
blackmail, from their partner.

Not many men would consider beating their wives sufficiently hard
with a crop or whip, as to make them scream. If they did, then I
would doubt that they would expect them to enjoy it. But many expect
their women to enjoy being buggered, despite the fact that the pain
involved can be more excruciating than that of a serious flogging.

I will never forget the pain of my first anal experience, even
though it was something that I really wanted to do, and I was with a
guy who was caring, experienced, and ever so gentle. I still ended up
screaming, with a horrific pain deep in my guts. I felt as if I had
been stabbed, and the pain didn¹t end as he withdrew, it got worse,
and it lasted for over an hour.

The part that I expected to be slightly painful, as the outer
sphincter stretched and perhaps split slightly, didn¹t worry me at
all, and to be quite honest I thought that women who couldn¹t take it
were just being soft. That was before I tried it........and met the
real pain.

I have been whipped and caned and beaten with a crop, both before I
lost my anal virginity and after, and I once had weals for 6 weeks
after a severe beating, but I would take that beating anyday, rather
than go through that anal pain again.

For the male, from what sensible answers I have managed to get, it
appears that anal sex is not actually quite as exciting as it might
be, if you take away the psychological excitement of the act, and
concentrate purely on the physical act, then the stimulation to the
penis is not as good as when it is within the vagina.

The anus may have a very tight entrance, and the inner sphincter
may grip the penis tightly, but as soon as the penis is past these
restrictions there is no real sensation. the colon is a very large
piece of soft elastic tube, and the penis will hardly touch the sides.
Since most of the sensitivity of the penis is in the frenum and the
glans, not the base of the shaft, deep penetration of the anus,
doesn¹t really give very much satisfaction in a physical sense.

Of course repeated penetration and withdrawal through the sphincter
muscles, will produce a high level of stimulation, but the male
instincts tell him to drive deep, and plant his seed where it will do
most good, so this messing about at the entrance will not lead to the
satisfaction of a deep penetration orgasm.

The vagina of course has muscles designed to keep the male organ in
a state of arousal, and to provide maximum pleasure from deep
penetration, thus both parties are striving to get the semen as close
to the neck of the womb as possible, to increase the chances of
fertilisation.

So this lends itself to the theory that anal sex has its root in
the psychological subjugation of the woman, rather than the simple
physical pleasure of a tighter orifice.

For those of us who enjoy being subjugated, for sexual purposes,
and I fall into this category. (even though I am not submissive in my
life outside sex) It is necessary to be able to cope with the demands
put upon us by our male partners.

To this end I have learnt to enjoy anal sex, as much, if not more
than vaginal sex. Surprisingly I discovered that I can have orgasms
from anal sex, and that these orgasms are incredibly intense and far
more satisfying, than vaginal or clitoral orgasms. My anus can accept
pretty well anything that is thrown at it, and has now miraculously
become self lubricating.

I can feel the question arising in your minds, how the hell did she
get from such incredible pain to pleasure, in two paragraphs, and why
did she risk the pain again after the first time.

The answers are simple enough, Patience, relaxation, and an
extremely skilled and caring partner, coupled with a lot of
determination, and a belief that it could be done. The pleasure I
never expected, it came as a very great surprise.

From our first attempt it was obvious to me that the pain was
caused by deep penetration, not simply the stretching of the outer
sphincter, as I expected. So I persuaded my partner, who was very
reluctant to try again because of the pain he caused me first time
around, to put his penis into my anus by about an inch, and then stop.
We used loads of KY jelly, to lubricate the sphincter, and I worked on
him to ensure that his penis was rock solid.